21 ways to have more fun at work

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  1. Do something you love
  2. Create purpose in what you do
  3. Listen to music when possible
  4. Be nice to people
  5. Schedule coffeebreaks with strangers
  6. Do a random act of kindness fo rsomeone
  7. Find out when everyones birthdays are and organize a surprise for someone
  8. Create relationships
  9. Find a problem at work you think you can solve
  10. Organize after work drinks with colleages, even if you think they might not like you that much
  11. Talk to the people who work in the kitchen, operations, and other parts of the company who you may not usually think of talking to
  12. Smile
  13. Learn another language that another collegue speaks and practice with them while trying
  14. Start a community library at work to allwo people to donate books
  15. Share you thoughts and your ideas on Linkdin, connect with people in your feild, spend time building you ronline presence
  16. Organize a team potluck at lunch time, or go out to a restaurant with your team
  17. Never eat lunch alone
  18. Share a book or an article with a colleague
  19. Donate old boardgames & play with collegues at breaktime
  20. Join the social media campigns and contests that your company initiates
  21. Buy a cute and sassy or funny mug to use at work, some good ideas here .
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Solving the worlds most pressing problems at work

Many people who work every day in large companies strive to find a way to make a difference in the world in a way that they see fit.  At times, few of us actually find ourselves in a job that allows for both personal and financial fulfilment.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we knew were making progress towards world hunger, peace, climate,  inequality or education at work? Some of us are…some don’t realize it. What is important to note is that everything we do has an impact either positive or negative. 

How does this happen you may ask? Well, it all begins with the little things:

1. Follow your job down the line, you may find that your job is an integral piece of a larger management chain ( in most cases it is). Ultimately you can see down the line YOU ARE a part of the bigger picture because you deliver something important that also helps others do their jobs, and ultimately leads to the direct impact of the company in whatever service they are providing.

2. Find out what volunteer opportunities there already are at your work and get involved. If your organization is a large organization it could be partnered with NGOs or charities that will have some opportunities to volunteer, so if your actual role is not giving you the satisfaction that you need to connect with the world in a bigger way, aside from finding another job, you can begin with this.

4. If your company does not offer volunteer opportunities, this may be a great way to find out what the possibilities are in your community and create a business case for teaming up with them and creating a program of your own. Just because there isn’t one already, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t allowed to create an opportunity. Show some initiative and let your company know you are willing to work for what you believe in.

5. Ask to help those who are doing what you want to do. If another person has your dream job and there is just no way that you see yourself being able to move internally anytime soon, then be proactive in letting people know what you are interested in! Ask to talk with the people in the roles to learn more about what they do. The worst that can happen is that you learn more about what the job entails and what skills are needed to be more fit for the job! This alone brings you one step closer to where you want to be and should propel your excitement. Once you have the knowledge, it’s up to you to know what to do with it.

6. Create a purpose statement for yourself on what is really important to you. One of the most useful tools I have ever learned in my life was how to brand myself. ( I am not even fully sure if I have mastered that one) ehhem. Regardless, having my own business really brought me out of my shell. In the case you are your own boss, usually, you are on 100% commission. This means you have to sell yourself, there is no getting around it. You have to sell YOUR brand.  The same goes for you in your career life even if you do not work for yourself. How do you have your own personal brand? Well,  this is a topic that can be a whole training course (believe me, I took one once before). The main thing to note is that you need to define your purpose and your mission. Who are you? From there, you can then define your direction.

My Love For You is a Strange Love

My love for you is a strange love

The kind that captures me like a butterfly who lives in my garden.

I not only feel blessed to be in it’s presence but feel the need to capture it and have it be near me always.

I know that I cannot expect for this beautiful creature to stay because I will ruin it’s beauty and it will suffer.

This way, the love will be no more.

This creature, this butterfly, this love comes and goes as it pleases but when it comes back to me, I welcome it peacefully because I know that it has all of the freedom to go somewhere else.

I am beautiful and special.

There must be something about me, my nature, that let this butterfly feel like it was ok to land, and brought it here in the first place.

This love brings together the excitement of uncertainty and astounding pleasure of the eyes, heart, and soul that I only get to feel at the deepest moments of connecting with the wild.

For us to choose to be with each other for each moment in time is nothing less than natural instinct and intuition.

You are always welcome in my garden. I will always make you feel safe and free so that I can enjoy your beauty and presence and allow myself to accept that I am also a beautiful part of nature and that nature always works in harmony to thrive and continue.

Writing as a Form of Therapy

Recently JAMA published a trial of a “get it off your chest” writing exercise. Seventy-one patients with asthma or rheumatoid arthritis were randomized to write about the most stressful experience they had ever had or about their plans for the day for three separate 20 minute periods over a few days.  The study apparently showed a significant improvement in standard measures of disease severity in both conditions four months later (Greenhalgh).

What happens when you have nobody to confide in? What happens when you cannot express in words what you are feeling or thinking because you are too ashamed or afraid of judgement? Maybe you just don’t know what you are feeling. What can you possibly do?

For this, some people have something like a professional psychiatrist/psychologist to confide in and listen to their fears, ambitions, wants and insecurities. At what cost? Some psychiatrists can cost up to $1,000 per hour and most of the time people feel better just by talking and getting out their frustrations.

What are Friends For?

Our friends are usually there for us when we need someone to talk to, if we are lucky enough to have a few good friends, but it may not be healthy if we are always calling or texting them to vent. This can be the ruiner of most relationships and friendships because one side is getting emotional comfort while the other is getting drained. Sometimes the other side may not tell you but instead, slowly disconnect because it feels exhausting to be around.

So what can we do if we can’t afford to go to a psychologist and do not want to be a leech off of our friend’s good energy?

How can Writing Help?

Since getting out our thoughts usually helps us feel instantly better and process our emotions before we react, I would say that writing is a pretty valuable resource. If we start with phrases like “ I feel ____ when _____ happens” we don’t blame and try to push off the problem on another entity, which will not solve the problem.

If we get into a fight or are dealing with past traumas, we can write about what we feel and we are able to really slow down process, and organize information instead of just reacting to it or taking the bits and pieces that heat us up.  When we write, we have a little voice in our head that reads back to us and we can almost hear ourselves speaking in our mind which opens up a view of our thought process and the reality of the situation.  If you don’t like what you see or what you hear, you can write down that you don’t like it.  Some people think this is the closest thing to getting to know that little voice inside your head or what some people would call the higher consciousness.

Most of the time we know what we need to do in order to solve our problems, but we mentally try to avoid it. Not all of us, but a lot of us. It is very easy to mentally avoid our problems because all we have to do is think about something else. We can also think about our problems so much, we are not able to function and move on with the actions needed to solve them. When we write, we look straight at the words as we watch them unravel and we face it as a reflection of our true selves in structure, instead of fleeting thoughts that repeat themselves. Writing can be a way to regain control of your power and influence the way you think by tapping into the part of your brain that knows what’s good for you and really getting down to business on what needs to be done. One may be surprised to find they are able to write down the steps they need to take to solve a major problem or to feel better and become motivated.

Writing can be a way to regain control of your power and influence the way you think by tapping into the part of your brain that knows what’s good for you and really getting down to business on what needs to be done. One may be surprised to find they are able to write down the steps they need to take to solve a major problem or to feel better and become motivated.

Is it the Cure all for Everything?

Scientists have not been able to produce solid evidence that a cure all for everything exists in one single action. Writing may not help you understand things that you have no prior knowledge about, but in the case where there is a lesson to be learned and you keep making the same mistake over and over again, writing down an action plan for yourself or a pep talk may just be what you need to take action. After all, most of us are not as influenced by others as we are ourselves.

Matthew McConaughey, in accepting his award for best actor, gave a speech that introduced the relationship he had with himself to get him where he is today.

“….And to my hero. That’s who I chase. Now when I was 15 years old, I had a very important person in my life come to me and say “who’s your hero?” And I said, “I don’t know, I gotta think about that. Give me a couple of weeks.” I come back two weeks later, this person comes up and says “who’s your hero?” I said, “I thought about it. You know who it is? It’s me in 10 years.” So I turned 25. Ten years later, that same person comes to me and says, “So, are you a hero?” And I was like, “not even close. No, no, no.” She said, “Why?” I said, “Because my hero’s me at 35.” So you see every day, every week, every month and every year of my life, my hero’s always 10 years away. I’m never gonna be my hero. I’m not gonna attain that. I know I’m not, and that’s just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chasing.”

Turning the Negatives into Positives

WRITING PRACTICE

The first thing to do when you find everything you have just put down on paper to be negative? Turn it into a positive, literally. If it is a negative sentence, take out the word bad, and insert the word good. If you don’t have anything good to say then make something up that you don’t believe..within reason of course. Something good and something obtainable or something that you are struggling with such as, “I am good at remembering things.”  If you write it down, you may consciously begin to think about remembering things and therefore pay more attention to taking action to remember things when you leave or writing lists to make sure you don’t forget.”

There is no bad writing unless it is used to hurt you or someone else or used to deceive an innocent population. If anyone can think of other ways in which writing can be bad that I have not mentioned, feel free to comment.

References 

Greenhalgh T. Writing as therapy : Effects on immune mediated illness need substantiation in independent studies . BMJ : British Medical Journal. 1999;319(7205):270-271.

Believe the One Reason You Should – Via Original Peice Mag

Today’s inspirational is: ‘Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason why it will.’ What that means is instead of finding all the different reasons why something won’t work out or seeing only negatives, find the one thing that will make it possible. Don’t dwell on the negatives when you […]

via Believe the One Reason You Should — Original Piece Mag

5 Simple Rules to Being More Open to True Love

A young lawyer from London sat down in my writing group. He had one hour to write anything he wanted to.  For this writing session, he wanted to write about his dilemma with a woman whom he fell in love with. Her parents would not approve of their relationship, which was stopping them from being together although they loved each other. She was 31 years old. Nothing else was on his mind. He was confused and frustrated.

I see women and men from all over the world who have their own personal reasons for denying themselves the pleasure of love from a certain person.  If we were to all to challenge the way that we have been brought up to think, would we be able to change a few things to invite more opportunities into our lives that help us find that love we so desire? The reader must ask themselves this if they constantly have to let themselves and others down in the face of romance because of these self-imposed limitations. By no means should you dear reader give up on what you want or lower your standards. Many people do in fact find the person who meets all of the requirements on their checklist without changing a thing.  Only if you are willing to change because what you are doing is not working, should you consider the advice below.

 

Don’t Let the example of how your father treated your mother be what you accept from a man. Also, don’t let the example of how your father treated your mother be your guidance on how you treat women. 

Do not think that a guy or girl who acts elusive is the one for you. If you feel like you are playing a game,  someone not being genuine. There are some rules to follow in consideration of the psychology of the opposite sex, playful hard to get and distancing can be harmless,  but if you feel like you cannot be yourself then you might need to rethink this relationship.

Open your mind to new ways of doing things if you are in a religion that forbids dating outside of it.  There are two sides to this coin:

  1. I am not saying disrespect your religion dear reader.  I have seen countless people hurt due to religious reasons or because of family ties.  Finding the person you will spend the rest of your life with should be your decision, after all, aren’t you the one that has to spend the rest of your life with them? This is going to be a little more complicated when you are really close to your family or you depend on them for financial support, in this case, you will need to decide how your decision will affect your relationship with your family and if that in turn, affects your quality of life, or not. To sum it up, make sure that you think of all the possibilities and decide if your fears are rooted in reality dear reader, sometimes the worst possible outcome is not such a horrible one.
  2. Maybe your parents do not approve of the relationship because they sense a danger to you (like he is addicted to drugs, abusive, controlling or manipulative).  It is really important to take an honest look at yourself and check to see if their concerns are valid or not.
  3. Another helpful tip, check out this link from a male perspective on what to do if your parents do not approve of your relationship. It can be a more practical approach to figuring out how to navigate this tricky situation.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-hassler/my-parents-or-my-boyfrien_b_241684.html

Don’t be with Someone for Convenience 

I met my boyfriend in San Francisco, although he lived on the other side of the world.  I was a bit scared and didn’t know how it would work, but  I loved the person I met and I wanted to keep him in my life.  We had the most unusual relationship because we were living in different countries,  but now we live together in a whole new country we both have never lived in before. We knew we could make it through anything because we spent two years flying back and forth across the world just to be next to each other. To me, it was worth it because I did not want to be with anyone else.

Don’t be with Someone for Money, Unless That is is Your Only Standard

Maybe money is important to you on a certain level, of course, you want to be with  someone who knows how to make wise decisions. Here is the deal, if you are only going for someone purely based on the fact that they stash over 100k per year, then this is a lifestyle for you and not a relationship.