5 Simple Rules to Being More Open to True Love

A young lawyer from London sat down in my writing group. He had one hour to write anything he wanted to.  For this writing session, he wanted to write about his dilemma with a woman whom he fell in love with. Her parents would not approve of their relationship, which was stopping them from being together although they loved each other. She was 31 years old. Nothing else was on his mind. He was confused and frustrated.

I see women and men from all over the world who have their own personal reasons for denying themselves the pleasure of love from a certain person.  If we were to all to challenge the way that we have been brought up to think, would we be able to change a few things to invite more opportunities into our lives that help us find that love we so desire? The reader must ask themselves this if they constantly have to let themselves and others down in the face of romance because of these self-imposed limitations. By no means should you dear reader give up on what you want or lower your standards. Many people do in fact find the person who meets all of the requirements on their checklist without changing a thing.  Only if you are willing to change because what you are doing is not working, should you consider the advice below.

 

Don’t Let the example of how your father treated your mother be what you accept from a man. Also, don’t let the example of how your father treated your mother be your guidance on how you treat women. 

Do not think that a guy or girl who acts elusive is the one for you. If you feel like you are playing a game,  someone not being genuine. There are some rules to follow in consideration of the psychology of the opposite sex, playful hard to get and distancing can be harmless,  but if you feel like you cannot be yourself then you might need to rethink this relationship.

Open your mind to new ways of doing things if you are in a religion that forbids dating outside of it.  There are two sides to this coin:

  1. I am not saying disrespect your religion dear reader.  I have seen countless people hurt due to religious reasons or because of family ties.  Finding the person you will spend the rest of your life with should be your decision, after all, aren’t you the one that has to spend the rest of your life with them? This is going to be a little more complicated when you are really close to your family or you depend on them for financial support, in this case, you will need to decide how your decision will affect your relationship with your family and if that in turn, affects your quality of life, or not. To sum it up, make sure that you think of all the possibilities and decide if your fears are rooted in reality dear reader, sometimes the worst possible outcome is not such a horrible one.
  2. Maybe your parents do not approve of the relationship because they sense a danger to you (like he is addicted to drugs, abusive, controlling or manipulative).  It is really important to take an honest look at yourself and check to see if their concerns are valid or not.
  3. Another helpful tip, check out this link from a male perspective on what to do if your parents do not approve of your relationship. It can be a more practical approach to figuring out how to navigate this tricky situation.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-hassler/my-parents-or-my-boyfrien_b_241684.html

Don’t be with Someone for Convenience 

I met my boyfriend in San Francisco, although he lived on the other side of the world.  I was a bit scared and didn’t know how it would work, but  I loved the person I met and I wanted to keep him in my life.  We had the most unusual relationship because we were living in different countries,  but now we live together in a whole new country we both have never lived in before. We knew we could make it through anything because we spent two years flying back and forth across the world just to be next to each other. To me, it was worth it because I did not want to be with anyone else.

Don’t be with Someone for Money, Unless That is is Your Only Standard

Maybe money is important to you on a certain level, of course, you want to be with  someone who knows how to make wise decisions. Here is the deal, if you are only going for someone purely based on the fact that they stash over 100k per year, then this is a lifestyle for you and not a relationship.

 

 

 

 

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Women in El Salvador are Punished for Having Miscarriages

These are only some of the people seeking refuge in other countries.

Threats of being imprisoned for half of your life doesn’t exactly make you feel like you live in the best place in the world, doesn’t  make you feel free, or even human for that matter. This is just one of the reasons why people migrate.

I recently had the chance to work with Amnesty International for the Feminist and Women’s Cultural Festival on March 12th. We mobilized against the total ban on abortions to some members of the legislative assembly of the Commission of that country to tilt their vote in relation to the reform of the current law on abortion. Many people did not know that this was still happening. Here is a link to stories of women in El Salvador who are still imprisoned and waiting for help.

El Salvador: Scandalous proposal to increase jail terms for women accused of abortion

12 July 2016, 14:52 UTC

A new proposal by a group of parliamentarians from opposition party ARENA in El Salvador to increase jail terms for women accused of having an abortion to up to 50 years is scandalous, irresponsible and flies on the face of basic human rights standards, Amnesty International said.

“Parliamentarians in El Salvador are playing a very dangerous game with the lives of millions of women. Banning life-saving abortions in all circumstances is atrocious but seeking to raise jail terms for women who seek an abortion or those who provide support is simply despicable,” said Erika Guevara-Rosas, Americas Director at Amnesty International.

Parliamentarians in El Salvador are playing a very dangerous game with the lives of millions of women. Banning life-saving abortions in all circumstances is atrocious but seeking to raise jail terms for women who seek an abortion or those who provide support is simply despicable.
Erika Guevara-Rosas, Americas Director at Amnesty International.

“Instead of continuing to criminalize women, authorities in El Salvador must repeal the outdated anti-abortion law once and for all.”

Following a change in the Penal Code in 1998, abortion in El Salvador has been banned in all circumstances – even when the pregnancy is the result of rape, incest or when the life of the woman is at risk. The current jail term in the Penal Code is from 2 to 8 years. The change in the law has led to wrongful prosecutions and misapplication of criminal law where women are immediately assumed guilty. Women with few economic resources are particularly affected by the ban.

 

Source: https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2016/07/el-salvador-scandalous-proposal-to-increase-jail-terms-for-women-accused-of-abortion/

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