My Love For You is a Strange Love

My love for you is a strange love

The kind that captures me like a butterfly who lives in my garden.

I not only feel blessed to be in it’s presence but feel the need to capture it and have it be near me always.

I know that I cannot expect for this beautiful creature to stay because I will ruin it’s beauty and it will suffer.

This way, the love will be no more.

This creature, this butterfly, this love comes and goes as it pleases but when it comes back to me, I welcome it peacefully because I know that it has all of the freedom to go somewhere else.

I am beautiful and special.

There must be something about me, my nature, that let this butterfly feel like it was ok to land, and brought it here in the first place.

This love brings together the excitement of uncertainty and astounding pleasure of the eyes, heart, and soul that I only get to feel at the deepest moments of connecting with the wild.

For us to choose to be with each other for each moment in time is nothing less than natural instinct and intuition.

You are always welcome in my garden. I will always make you feel safe and free so that I can enjoy your beauty and presence and allow myself to accept that I am also a beautiful part of nature and that nature always works in harmony to thrive and continue.


Writing as a Form of Therapy

Recently JAMA published a trial of a “get it off your chest” writing exercise. Seventy-one patients with asthma or rheumatoid arthritis were randomized to write about the most stressful experience they had ever had or about their plans for the day for three separate 20 minute periods over a few days.  The study apparently showed a significant improvement in standard measures of disease severity in both conditions four months later (Greenhalgh).

What happens when you have nobody to confide in? What happens when you cannot express in words what you are feeling or thinking because you are too ashamed or afraid of judgement? Maybe you just don’t know what you are feeling. What can you possibly do?

For this, some people have something like a professional psychiatrist/psychologist to confide in and listen to their fears, ambitions, wants and insecurities. At what cost? Some psychiatrists can cost up to $1,000 per hour and most of the time people feel better just by talking and getting out their frustrations.

What are Friends For?

Our friends are usually there for us when we need someone to talk to, if we are lucky enough to have a few good friends, but it may not be healthy if we are always calling or texting them to vent. This can be the ruiner of most relationships and friendships because one side is getting emotional comfort while the other is getting drained. Sometimes the other side may not tell you but instead, slowly disconnect because it feels exhausting to be around.

So what can we do if we can’t afford to go to a psychologist and do not want to be a leech off of our friend’s good energy?

How can Writing Help?

Since getting out our thoughts usually helps us feel instantly better and process our emotions before we react, I would say that writing is a pretty valuable resource. If we start with phrases like “ I feel ____ when _____ happens” we don’t blame and try to push off the problem on another entity, which will not solve the problem.

If we get into a fight or are dealing with past traumas, we can write about what we feel and we are able to really slow down process, and organize information instead of just reacting to it or taking the bits and pieces that heat us up.  When we write, we have a little voice in our head that reads back to us and we can almost hear ourselves speaking in our mind which opens up a view of our thought process and the reality of the situation.  If you don’t like what you see or what you hear, you can write down that you don’t like it.  Some people think this is the closest thing to getting to know that little voice inside your head or what some people would call the higher consciousness.

Most of the time we know what we need to do in order to solve our problems, but we mentally try to avoid it. Not all of us, but a lot of us. It is very easy to mentally avoid our problems because all we have to do is think about something else. We can also think about our problems so much, we are not able to function and move on with the actions needed to solve them. When we write, we look straight at the words as we watch them unravel and we face it as a reflection of our true selves in structure, instead of fleeting thoughts that repeat themselves. Writing can be a way to regain control of your power and influence the way you think by tapping into the part of your brain that knows what’s good for you and really getting down to business on what needs to be done. One may be surprised to find they are able to write down the steps they need to take to solve a major problem or to feel better and become motivated.

Writing can be a way to regain control of your power and influence the way you think by tapping into the part of your brain that knows what’s good for you and really getting down to business on what needs to be done. One may be surprised to find they are able to write down the steps they need to take to solve a major problem or to feel better and become motivated.

Is it the Cure all for Everything?

Scientists have not been able to produce solid evidence that a cure all for everything exists in one single action. Writing may not help you understand things that you have no prior knowledge about, but in the case where there is a lesson to be learned and you keep making the same mistake over and over again, writing down an action plan for yourself or a pep talk may just be what you need to take action. After all, most of us are not as influenced by others as we are ourselves.

Matthew McConaughey, in accepting his award for best actor, gave a speech that introduced the relationship he had with himself to get him where he is today.

“….And to my hero. That’s who I chase. Now when I was 15 years old, I had a very important person in my life come to me and say “who’s your hero?” And I said, “I don’t know, I gotta think about that. Give me a couple of weeks.” I come back two weeks later, this person comes up and says “who’s your hero?” I said, “I thought about it. You know who it is? It’s me in 10 years.” So I turned 25. Ten years later, that same person comes to me and says, “So, are you a hero?” And I was like, “not even close. No, no, no.” She said, “Why?” I said, “Because my hero’s me at 35.” So you see every day, every week, every month and every year of my life, my hero’s always 10 years away. I’m never gonna be my hero. I’m not gonna attain that. I know I’m not, and that’s just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chasing.”

Turning the Negatives into Positives


The first thing to do when you find everything you have just put down on paper to be negative? Turn it into a positive, literally. If it is a negative sentence, take out the word bad, and insert the word good. If you don’t have anything good to say then make something up that you don’t believe..within reason of course. Something good and something obtainable or something that you are struggling with such as, “I am good at remembering things.”  If you write it down, you may consciously begin to think about remembering things and therefore pay more attention to taking action to remember things when you leave or writing lists to make sure you don’t forget.”

There is no bad writing unless it is used to hurt you or someone else or used to deceive an innocent population. If anyone can think of other ways in which writing can be bad that I have not mentioned, feel free to comment.


Greenhalgh T. Writing as therapy : Effects on immune mediated illness need substantiation in independent studies . BMJ : British Medical Journal. 1999;319(7205):270-271.

Beleive the One Reason You Should – Via Original Peice Mag

Today’s inspirational is: ‘Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason why it will.’ What that means is instead of finding all the different reasons why something won’t work out or seeing only negatives, find the one thing that will make it possible. Don’t dwell on the negatives when you […]

via Believe the One Reason You Should — Original Piece Mag

If you Don’t Have Time Now, Will you Ever?

There are many reasons for people not to find time to improve themselves in some sort of way. One of the many things trainers and teachers will hear is that people do not have time to practice or exercise. Be sure that you are giving yourself the time. Nothing is more important than you are. Your friends, your family, and your quality of life are all affected if you do not give yourself the opportunity to thrive physical, mentally, and spiritually.

Even with exercise if you have 20 minutes, help yourself out by going for a walk, moving around or stretching. Meditation is wonderful because you can do it anywhere you want. In the car, in bed, in class…there is no obstruction, only yourself.

You have to be the one who realizes how important it is for yourself and how much you want to grow and evolve your body, mind and spirit. It has to be more than you want to watch that TV show or eat that bag of chips when your not even really hungry. When you have been able to evolve past your physical cravings and reduce overindulging in your senses, then you are able to achieve anything.

Words from Lao Tzu on Taming the Ego

True Words are not necessarily beautiful.
Beautiful words are not necessarily truthful.
One who is achieved does not argue,
and one who argues is not achieved.
One who knows the deepest truth
does not need segmented information.
One who knows vast amounts of information
may not know the truth.

One of deep virtue
is not occupied with amassing material goods,
yet the more he lives for others,
the richer his life becomes.

The more he gives, the more his life abounds.
The subtle way of the universes beneficial, not harmful.
The integral nature of a person
is to extend one’s virtue unconditionally
And to contend with no one.

Your Basic Guide to Traditional Chinese Medicine

•No, you do not have to use needles

•Yes, it does work. It has been proven to help reduce pain and symptoms of auto immune diseases, as well as utilized in cancer therapy and various other mental health problems.

•It is not to replace emergency medical care. So if you get into a car accident, don’t expect green tea and brown rice to come to your rescue. Of course, I didn’t need to tell you that:)

• The doctors are real. It takes a licensed TCM doctor, acupuncturist, or Medical Qigong Doctor just as much training and education as a traditional doctor. They have to learn Anatomy and Physiology and go in depth to learn about interactions to herbs and medicines just like the traditional doctors. In fact, many of the herbs that TCM doctors prescribe are in modern day pharmaceuticals because of their proven effectiveness. They take your health seriously. There are training hospitals all over the world for this.

TCM practitioners utilize multiple modalities, which are used individually or in combination to achieve general and specific health care objectives. Amongst these modalities acupuncture has captured the attention of the world and is fast becoming one of the most popular natural treatment methods today. Following are the modalities of Chinese Medicine:

  Medical Qigong Therapy

Energetic modulation applied to the body to cleanse, gather, circulate, balance and strengthen the body’s energetic system.

  • Self-regulation – This aspect involves the instruction, guidance and monitoring of practices individually designed to meet specific needs.
  • Qi emission – This aspect is applied as energetic bodywork through touching or non-touching methods to rebalance patterns of energetic dysfunction.

BodyWork Therapy

Involves a number of different techniques such as Tui Na, Acupressure, and An Mo to manipulate the soft tissue and influence the flow of energy in the body throughout the meridian system.

 Acupuncture Therapy

Fine, disposable, sterile, one-use needles are used to open or close specific points grouped along certain lines of energy flow called meridians, which go deep into the body. Disease, for example is prevented or treated by stimulating or reducing the flow of vital energy of “chi” through specific points in the body. Vital energy then is strengthened or sedated, monitored, and balanced to achieve the desired result.

 Nutrition Therapy

Programs restore balance within the body using food therapy which recognizes the energetic properties of food specific for individual constitutions with the seasons.

 Herbal Therapy

Considered “special foods”, herbs can be taken in various forms such as: teas, tinctures, powders, liniments, extracts, plasters, capsules, pills, etc. They are very effective in nourishing, strengthening and regulating the flows of energy throughout the body.

 Other modalities commonly used With the above

  • Moxabustion – a form of herbal heat therapy
  • Cupping – suction cups are used for the purgation of pathogenic factors as well as stiffness and pain
  • Scraping – sometimes called “coining” has similar use as cupping as well as deep massage
  • Magnets – used to influence the polarities of the energetic flow to manage pain and other ailments

Source: Longevity Center Clinic and Institute in

San Jose, Ca

Tai Chi – Scientific Studies to Inspire Your A$$ to Move Slowly

  Tai Chi versus brisk walking in elderly women

Harvard Medical School, Boston, MA, USA

Outcomes:  A short style of Tai Chi Chuan (TCC) was found to be an effective way to improve many fitness measures in elderly women over a 3-month period. TCC was also found to be significantly better than brisk walking in enhancing certain measures of fitness including lower extremity strength, balance and flexibility.


 Evaluation of the sustaining effects of Tai Chi Qigong in the sixth month in promoting psychosocial health in COPD patients: a single-blind, randomized controlled trial

The Nethersole School of Nursing, The Chinese University of Hong Kong, Shatin, N.T., Hong Kong

Outcomes: Tai Chi Qigong (TCQ) has sustaining effects in improving psychosocial health; it is also a useful and appropriate exercise for chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) patients.


 Impact of Qigong on quality of life, pain and depressive symptoms in older adults admitted to an intermediate care rehabilitation unit: a randomized controlled trial

Hospital Sociosantari Pere Virgili, Barcelona, Spain

Outcomes: According to our results, a structured Qigong intervention, together with usual care, might contribute to improve quality of life of patients admitted to a post-acute intermediate care rehabilitation unit, compared to usual care.


  Improving Sleep Quality in Older Adults with Moderate Sleep Complaints: A Randomized Controlled Trial of Tai Chi Chih

University of California, Los Angeles, USA

Outcomes: Tai Chi Chih can be considered a useful nonpharmacologic approach to improve sleep quality in older adults with moderate complaints and, thereby, has the potential to ameliorate sleep complaints possibly before syndromal insomnia develops.


 Research on psychoneuroimmunology: tai chi as a stress management approach for individuals with HIV disease

Integrating Wellness, Inc., Richmond, VA, USA and School of Nursing, Virginia Commonwealth University, Richmond, VA, USA

Outcomes: As a stress management strategy, tai chi may enhance one’s coping ability and potentially impact neuroendocrine responses and, ultimately, immune function. We investigated this mind–body intervention, along with two other intervention groups and a wait-listed control group, in a randomized clinical trial to discover its specific biopsychosocial effects in individuals living with various stages of HIV disease. This article focuses on the novel tai chi intervention and provides preintervention and postintervention